Guest Post:: What Adoption is.

We have been so encouraged by the positive feedback we’ve gotten about pursuing adoption! Thank you all so much for your support! It means so much!

I thought I would share this, as I know before our journey, a lot of my personal beliefs about adoption were very naive and came from a place of lack of understanding. (I got this idea from another blog I read, and I hesitate to post it without crediting the correct person, but I cannot find her for the life of me! – If you read this, thank you!)

What adoption is NOT:
  • Adoption does not make us special or better than anyone.
  • Does not make our adopted child(ren) more blessed than others’ or our own biological children.
  • Isn’t an opportunity to be the “Great White Saviors” for children all over the world. Jesus is the Savior.
  • Does not make us more caring and loving than other parents, in fact, we will not be able to adopt or walk this journey without the compassion, love and help of others like you.
  • Adopting from a foreign country is not saying those children are more deserving than children in the US and vise versa.
Adoption IS however…
  • A God given passion and a biblical command. (James 1:27)
  • Makes us aware of God’s love for us. (John 14:18)
  • A lengthy process that will teach us a whole lot about patience, and reliance upon Jesus.
  • Brings our prejudices to the surface so they can be confessed. (Colossians 3:11)
  • Allows us to be a part of something that is greater than ourselves.
  • Teaches us that we are not the center of our own universes.
  • Confronts us in that we are not in control. (Isaiah 55:8)
  • Allows our child(ren) to grow up by experiencing God’s creativity in each of us.
More posts to catch you up (some) are listed below!
Patrick and Sear

Score!!!

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Safeway is running a special on their O Organics Chicken Broth, buy 8 or more mix and match and participating items in the store and receive O Organics Chicken Broth for $1.99 regular price $3.49. Always looking for affordable organic options I jumped on it… thing is they only had one left. I actually run across this a lot. Did you know you can ask an employee or manager if they will honor the sale price on a similar item? They ALWAYS have for me! (at least at Safeway) Turns out today was no exception I was able to get 9 Pacific Natural Foods Organic Free Range Chicken Broth for $1.99 each!!! Which is actually a better deal than the offered sale because I believe the original price of the Pacific Natural Foods Organic Chicken Broth is $3.99!

SCORE!!!!

It’s what makes me happy on Monday nights, don’t judge.

Helloooooo… Helloooo Out There!

Two years ago around this time Brad and I set our eyes on a little BIG guy named Franklin. We were in love. BUT it wasn’t that easy… we did love this guy but did we want him? This is the story of our first child. :)

Once Brad and I were married I started talking about getting a dog, specifically a Goldendoodle Puppy. We first lived in a downtown apartment = No Dog. So I did my research knowing we were only there temporarily, ended up being the first 5 months of our marriage. When we were in our house it was ON! We remodeled and decorated the entire house in a short period of time which kept me busy the first 5 months in the home but then… I was back to puppy search!

The problem with these puppies I was finding was the PRICE! They were so expensive (remember we just remodeled and decorated an ENTIRE home!) Brad wasn’t sold and Frankly (ha ha) either was I. We were also worried about the work involved with training a puppy. We have a busy lifestyle and knew a puppy would require a lot of attention. I started looking at our local shelters, The Willamette Valley Humane Society and The Marion County Shelter. I liked the idea of keeping my money out of a puppy mill or even a pricey breeder and putting it right into a loving dog that needs a home.

I saw Franklin on the Marion County Shelter (on my phone, in bed) and showed him to Brad. Brad just laughed. From the picture he didn’t seem to promising see… I had convinced Brad on a Goldendoole for a few reasons, they can be big, loyal (Brad has had a Golden Retriever), and if it has poodle in it it can be shaggy if we want! I liked that the poodle mean NO SHEDDING!

Franklin looked to be a small well shaved and manicured poodle at first glance. But I looked closer and his details said he was 62 pounds! Brad… hes BIG! If he is a poodle we can grow his hair out! B…not convinced. I went and visited Franklin on my lunch break the next day regardless.

He was very big and tall which I loved also timid and cuddly… almost just tired… But Soooo Sweet! I put him on hold and brought Brad back to meet him. Because we had decided a no-go on the puppy we liked the fact that Franklin was an adult dog and calm. Brad wondered if he was TOO CALM… the staff at the shelter assured us that he perks up when they take him out to play with his “brother” Bosley. We took him out and he maybe walked to the ball a bit faster but he was no puppy that is for sure! We were okay with it. He seemed sad… and we didn’t blame him for not wanting to play. The other problem was that he was so dirty and matted when they got him in that they had to shave him to practically nothing to get him cleaned up! This made him look VERY poodel-ey… like pink skin in your face poodle-ey. I assured Brad that I had seen his original picture and that his hair would grow!

Case in point (below!)

We took a night to think about it and got some advice from our friends and family. They had their reservations, we were told that most shelter dogs had problems, were not well behaved, and hard to train. He was too cute not to take the risk! We took the plunge and adoped Franklin from the shelter and have never looked back. They said he was a poodle mix and either 3 or 4 years old. He had to go to the vet to get all done up before we could take him home and boy was that a transition. Brad went and picked him up in his truck after work, poor Franklin was so scarred Brad couldn’t even get him into his truck. He had to go get one of the volunteers to help him lift him into the truck. He took him home and had to run somewhere right away… I was still at work.

My husband left a stray dog in my NEWLY REMODELED HOME unattended! He called me at work and I freaked! Honestly who does that?

Turns out Franklin was so scarred he didn’t move a inch in the hour Brad was gone. He was pretty scarred the first month or two we had him. He didn’t like the feeling of our hardwood floors, the stairs, or mirrors. Brad had to carry him outside to potty and down the stairs. He soon got the program down and now has no problem even jumping on out bed. :) Looking back on pictures from the past two years with Franks really crack me up especially the beginning when we thought we could train him to like a kennel.


I don’t let Franks clean my ears this is just a Father Son thing. 

He would rather sit on your lap than anywhere else. Did I mention he is now 96 Lbs!!!

One thing about our shelter dog is that he is a runner! He will run away and not come back if he doesn’t want to. This is a recent picture of Brad playing hide and go seek with Franks in attempts to catch him at my parents house. :)

He is a very patient Cousin.

Loves digging and getting dirty!

This is him looking at me like….What mom I’m with Amy leave me alone, She’s my Peep!

Franks we love you more than anything and can’t wait to spend many more years together! Now let’s go to bed and see if dad kicks you off! ;)

Guest Post:: Frost Baby #1

(Were going to catch all you “Our Celebrate Life” readers up on previous posts from our blog, if you follow our blog this will be a repeat!)

Adoption is something Patrick and I have been talking about since we were dating.

“Our plan” was to adopt after we’d had a few biological children – you know, in our thirties.

However, about 6 months ago God started moving in our hearts to seriously consider adoption NOW. At first, we found ourselves saying, no not yet. However, God has written our story specifically for us and ultimately to share HIS story through us. With that in mind, we began to pray about adoption. A lot. We began to feel God seriously move in us on this subject. We prayed that God would give us compassion for orphans right now in our current life, a compassion we could not ignore if this is what He had for us. We prayed that we would listen to His timing. We asked Him to speak in a way that we could not ignore. We only felt our hearts growing softer, as He continued to give us affirmation that we could not ignore.

We began praying for God to move in the hearts of our family members, that they would be receptive and supportive, because without their support the road would become more difficult, and basically impossible. We did not know what to expect, as we haven’t known anyone very close to us that has ever adopted, so getting a gage for our parent’s feelings on the subject was difficult. It wasn’t a topic that either Patrick nor I remember talking about often growing up.

We prayed and prayed for several months, pleading with God that He would soften, mold and shape the hearts of those we love, and adore so much if this is what He had for us. HE DID. He answered these prayers so specifically, there was no denying. Our hearts overflowed with thanks. We saw so clearly His compassion on us. My personal prayer life has changed because of this. And I believe it will continue to change and become more powerful throughout this journey.

After serious prayer and sharing with our family,we decided we were going to do this. We are going to adopt a baby! And our family is so excited and supportive, we are overjoyed!

We are going to adopt from Ethiopia.

Why Ethiopia?

  • HIV/AIDS
  • Child trafficking
  • Poor education
  • Poverty
  • 1 out of every 8 children are orphans
  • Of 143 million orphans in the WORLD, Ethiopia has the most at 5 million.

We asked God to break our hearts for what breaks His, and He did. We have researched several countries that are open to adoption and have the most need, and with Ethiopia and beyond those statistics, Patrick and I both just felt something, we felt compassion, and a desire to be a part, to help – we didn’t feel that with any other country. Ethiopia has our heart already, and we feel for and pray for that country every day.

Just this morning we spoke with an adoptive family from our church that just brought their baby girl home from Ethiopia a year ago. She is adorable, and my heart melted. I don’t believe this conversation was an accident, or happened by chance. It was affirming.

A common question from the few we have told is, “Isn’t that expensive?” The answer is yes, very expensive. However, we as Christians are encouraged to step out in faith and believe in a God that provides, and makes Himself known. Sometimes the hardest area to step out in faith for me is financially, because I think the thought of money showing up out of “thin air” is abstract. Overall, I lack trust. This is a huge leap of faith for us, and we trust He will provide.

We believe that as Christians, God has called us all to be a part of caring for orphans whether that means actually caring for them, praying for them, or financially contributing to them, we have an obligation. Patrick and I believe we’ve been called to care for orphan(s).

“It’s important to know that you don’t always have to know how God will equip you to adopt before you begin praying , and planning toward adoption. I know it’s a Christian cliché to shrug and say, “God will provide” in the face of financial uncertainty, but the reason it’s a cliché is because God does indeed provide. Now, to be sure, God doesn’t promise to bless us with material prosperity, and he doesn’t indulge our foolish consumerist binges. But God repeatedly provides the means for willing men and women to become parents, including those He has called to adopt, even though sometimes, at first, it seems economically impossible.”

– Adopted For Life

To raise our funds we plan to save everything possible, and live as frugally as possible, however we can’t come up with $25,000 on our own. Not. even. close. We pray that God would move in the hearts of others to contribute financially, as well as pray for our future baby. We plan on doing one fund raiser, selling T-shirts to raise support and raise awareness, which we hope to begin shortly. Beyond that, we have put our trust and our hope financially in the only One capable of having it. God has already been so faithful in this area, and He is already working. We’ve already had a very kind financial contributions from someone that we have been floored by. So affirming. He is so good, and deserves all the glory.

We know this journey will be long (1.5-2 years+), we know there will be trials along the way, along with heartache, and lots of waiting but we trust that God will provide financially, emotionally beyond what we can imagine. He will answer prayers, He will move mountains, and He will make His name known. He always does. And isn’t that ultimately what we want? To make His name known.

Knowing this road will be long, we need your help along the way. We covet your prayers, your encouragement and your kind words. We wouldn’t be able to even consider adoption if we didn’t have loving and supportive family and friends. We realize that we have been blessed beyond what we deserve with the people God has placed in our life. We believe each and every person in our life has been placed there for a reason, and we can’t believe how generous God has been, to give us people like you.

It dawned on me the other day, that there are so many factors that have to come together for you to be successful in adoption, and I realized, having wonderful, and supportive friends and family is a huge part of that in the beginning and throughout the process. We are thankful that He has already orchestrated that detail, we are truly blessed with people who will walk this road with us. Without YOU, we would not and could not be successful. Thank you for being there.

We would love nothing more than for God to speak to YOU in a special way, and that you would be challenged and encouraged by what you can do for orphans.

Our hope is that we would not only be changed by our road to adoption, but that our (God’s) story would encourage and spur others on to take a new look at orphans and God’s love for them.

“God’s cost to adopt us (death on the cross) was infinitely greater than any cost we will endure in adopting and raising children.” – Reclaiming Adoption

Have questions? We would love to answer them! And if you are considering adoption at all, we would love to connect with you! This is a long road, and not one that can be walked alone.

Ephesians 3:20-21

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think according to the power at work within us, to Him be all the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”

Baby Frost:: (Partial) Guest Post!

Lets start at the beginning…my friend Siriana and I have gone to school together since she was in 3rd grade and I was in 4th at good ‘ol Salem Academy! You know how grade school goes though… you mostly pay attention to the kids in the grade above you not below you. This means Sear may have noticed me a bit more than I noticed her early on. ;) Lets be honest… I was more concerned with the moon shoes the 5th graders were bringing to recess. Fast forward 15 years we are dear friends that have been through… Grade School, Middle School, High School, College, Marriage, and soon to be Babies together!


I have chosen to share Siriana and her husband Patrick’s road to adoption here on my blog for several reasons.

  • Further awareness for adoption
  • Show support and get more support for Sear and Patrick’s journey
  • Show a different approach to becoming a First time Mom
  • Give you a good read! Sear is a hoot and an amazing Christ centered voice

You can get a sneak peek or just catch up at their blog HERE.

Below is a little intro to Siriana and Patrick… They will be posting several Guest Posts in the future to keep us posted on their Road to Adoption! We Love you Baby Frost!

Hey! We’re Patrick and Sear and we have been married for 2 years and despite our inability to water plants and keep them alive, we’ve decided to grow our family through adoption!

(I (Ashley) put in this photo! They are too cute not to show off!)

At first glance, we may not seem like the best candidates to be parents because:

  • Sear one time lost our 2 year-old nephew 10 seconds after committing to watch him.
  • Patrick’s daily search for his keys, wallet, and/or cell phone.
  • We both gag at the smell or site of baby poop.

Some things you should know right away…you might NOT like our blog/story if you are looking for tips on cooking (we don’t take pictures of our meals – who likes pictures of microwaved Smart Ones anyway?), decorating, and/or finding “deals”. But what you will find is a transparent picture of adoption and all it entails. If you’d like to check in with our blog/story to stay in the know on how to whip up a mean bowl of cereal, my fake commitments to 5k’s, 10k, half marathons and marathons, then we’re the right spot for you! As you get to know us you might chuckle frequently at Patrick’s quotes, my ideas, and interests, along with Patrick and I making major life decisions via text message.

As a means to “wet your appetite” you might appreciate this quote from Patrick. Recently, I (Sear) proposed that we may need to dry clean the seating pads on our dining room table chairs, because they were stained, Patrick responded, “Well, I don’t know if they NEED to be dry cleaned, I think the first step would be flipping them over.”

Welcome to our story!

The Frost’s